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Post by Nicky80 Wed 30 Apr 2014, 20:40

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Editor's note: Pepper Schwartz is professor of sociology at the University of Washington and the author or co-author of 19 books, the latest of which is "The Normal Bar." She is the love and relationship ambassador for AARP and writes the Naked Truth column for AARP.org. She is a senior fellow at the Council on Contemporary Families, a nonprofit organization that gathers research on American families, and chairwoman of the advisory board for the Ph.D. program in sexual studies at the California Institute for Integral Research. The opinions in this commentary are solely those of the author.

(CNN) -- He is in that landing pattern that middle-aged heartthrobs finally come to: time for home and family and a woman who is worthy of keeping his love.

The 50-plus Oscar winner, producer and political activist George Clooney is apparently engaged to be married. He's at a particularly pivotal age. Forget about the 50s being the new 40s -- the 50s are really very specific. Even the most youthful people will start thinking about the meaning of life as the years no longer stretch out in a fantasy of infinity. Those years between 50 and 60 do seem to be a particularly poignant age for men, especially the kind of man who has trouble giving up motorcycles.

Sometime in this period, the thrill seekers and lust lovers get their whiff of mortality (perhaps because of their latest motorcycle accident) and they turn to love with a new sense of its gravitas. With a nod to the motivation most of us mortals have, they are ready for an emotional legacy. (Hint: watch for children)

It might irk Clooney to be seen as so predictable. He's a gifted, idiosyncratic, goes-his-own-way, irreverent kind of guy. But he has been practicing for this life transition in full view. In his films, he has played lost middle-aged men, lost in their careers, lost in neglected marriages, lost because of a lack of connection to something important -- "Up in the Air," "The Descendents," "Michael Clayton," among others. Many of these men reshuffle their lives, readjust their principles or at least find some self knowledge they sorely lacked.

If the reports of his engagement are true, this is kind of what Clooney has done, and what a lot of professionally single men ultimately come to do, especially about love. His apparent fiancee, Amal Alamuddin, is an accomplished and wordly lawyer. Clooney's doing that middle-aged love choice. He's picking a woman of substance as well as beauty -- the kind of woman you would want as friend and counselor, the kind of woman who would have the genes to be the mother of your children -- and it's now, because it suddenly dawns on you that you have no time to lose.

In this scenario of the chastened older Lothario, the candidate is young enough to lust after and smart enough for impregnation. It's not that women, especially stars, don't come to the same point as Clooney and end up in the same position. But biology forces them to make the comparable choice at least a decade or so earlier. Unlike a woman his age, Clooney can do the whole settling-down gambit at almost any age. But he probably understood some ages are better for this than others.

I know this isn't very romantic, but the timing is -- whether the 50-something group knows it or not -- guided by the Grim Reaper. If that sounds bad, it's not.

Middle age is an important time for reassessment and course correction. No matter how bright your star, you know that only so much time is left to have a profound relationship and, perhaps, a family. This is the real anchor of middle-aged love: It's time to stop fooling around.

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Post by playfuldeb Wed 30 Apr 2014, 20:47

Personally, I disagree with her analysis of being 50. Unless it relates only to a man. Because I am in my 50s, and not in a relationship, and am really enjoying myself. My children are grown, I can do and be what I want, come and go as I please, no one at home that needs me to be there to feed them their meds on time, or help them to bed.
Maybe George is feeling this reassessment the author speaks of since he has not experienced any of this yet?
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Post by party animal - not! Wed 30 Apr 2014, 21:06

Its so dependant on your own personal timeline doesn't it? There is no generic all-fit, but I understand how she's come to that conclusion socialogically.

Let's face it. If every man was as good-looking and attractive as His Nibs, who could get any girl he wanted, there'd be a lot fewer men for the rest of us!

This article reminds me of an one by David Gerber in Parade when he went to see George in Como. He came to the same conclusion...............

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Post by fava Wed 30 Apr 2014, 22:07

It did occur to me that his parents must be thrilled Amal is an age to have kids--maybe that grandparent door has not been shut yet. If George and Amal have not discussed this they are fools--and I don't think they are. Not having children if she wants to be a mom is a deal breaker for many women. But maybe Amal has no desire for that.

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Post by annemarie Wed 30 Apr 2014, 22:17

Not every woman wants children but if she does then I'm sure she and George have discussed it

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Post by Picachu Wed 30 Apr 2014, 22:40

Not every woman wants or can have kids, it's a personal discussion between them and no one else
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Post by LornaDoone Wed 30 Apr 2014, 23:53

That's true but given his very vocal comments that he doesn't want children, then you can understand the curiosity as to whether or not he has changed his mind on this also.

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Post by LizzyNY Thu 01 May 2014, 00:15

I really hope he has changed his mind (or she "forgets" the pill sometime) because I'd love to see the gene pool continue. It doesn't seem right that someone like him can't be around forever, and having kids is the next best thing.  Smile 
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Post by bamboochacha Thu 01 May 2014, 01:45

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great writing here - tick tock
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Post by Alisonfan Thu 01 May 2014, 01:49

we are all allowed to change our mind once.

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Post by theminis Thu 01 May 2014, 02:30

I would like to see the gene pool continue so that in years to my come my daughter can drool over George Clooney Junior LOL
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Post by fava Thu 01 May 2014, 03:12

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great writing here - tick tock

Love it-- and so true there is a double standard.

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